HOW TO OPTIMIZE LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
We all have the human need to give and receive love in our relationships. Everyone has different perceptions of what love means to them. Relationships are difficult to navigate. Each one will be different, but all have the commonality that they mirror everything that we feel inside.
Optimizing the love in your life is an inside job. Identifying the perceptions that are sabotaging the love that you want will make dramatic improvements in your happiness. Even when you have a bad day and those around you seem to be difficult to love, you won’t be seeking what you are lacking in yourself.
4 WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
1. IDENTIFY HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF
Do you know how to love yourself? Having a healthy self-love that isn’t ego driven will enable you to give and receive healthy love. Dedicate 30 minutes – 2 times a day for contemplation. Meditating has been used for centuries to refresh and recharge. Make a commitment to yourself that you will set aside time for contemplation and you will quickly identify how to love yourself. You will soon have less of a need for others to fill the love void.
2. KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES
After you have gotten into the practice of daily meditation you will understand more about who you are and your needs for love. Unfortunately, not everyone will practice healthy self-love and will attempt to put their demands for love on you. Being a people pleaser and complying with the perceived unrealistic demands of others is not showing healthy love. On the other hand, agreeing to do “it” and taking ownership will help you to avoid resentments. Establish clear boundaries for yourself.
3. CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY
After knowing who you are, practicing self-care and setting healthy boundaries for yourself, choose your battles carefully when in a confrontation. Before making an inappropriate response take a moment to
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contemplate the intent of the other person. Are they requesting something that doesn’t cross a boundary? Will complying with their need show love for them? In the grand scheme of things will giving-in harm you?
4. SET A “ZERO” EXPECTATION
Not having an expectation of what someone else can do for you, will put you in a position of receiving love. Enjoy the time that you have with the other person. Listen for opportunities of showing them love. Be in the moment with the other person.
Even if doing a certain activity is something that you don’t enjoy doing. Developing the attitude and habit of not having expectations of others making you happy. You will soon reap the rewards of true love.
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